This is the title of a podcast episode I came across from Amy Taylor Kabbaz recently. I was scrolling for something else but this jumped out.
When I’ve personally invited some mama’s in my village to come try circle, I have at times been met with statements like “?? ?’?? ???? ??? ?? ?????? ??? ????? ???? ? ???’? ???? ?? ????? ???? ??? ????”, or “? ???? ??? ???? ????? ????????? ??? ?’? ??????? ??? ??????????” or “?’?? ??????? ???? (?????? ?????) ???? ???? ? ???????’? ?? ???? ???? ????/???? ?????”.
Now I am not dismissing these sorts of reasons. Sometimes we really need to feel into what will fill us up, what our nervous system needs, and make a call on it. Sometimes that will be time alone or not being open in a group setting.
However, the reasons for the no, as Amy discusses actually stems from our “???? ?? ??????? ?? ?? ????? ?? ????? ????? ???? ??? ?????? ?? ????? ?????? ????.”
Amy goes on to discuss how as women, we have always been taught to compete with each other, many of us having a history of being bullied, feeling different or fighting with other women for resources.
This history alone can make it hard for women to trust that a circle space is a safe container. We are so use to being in spaces with other girls/women when we have been spoken over, given unwanted opinions and advice and been rejected.
Even for those mamas who have bravely come and joined my circles/gatherings I have witnessed how hard it is for them to take up space. To spend longer than 2 minutes actually discussing and voicing what they wish too. I see them apologise over and over for either crying, swearing or taking up too much time! As Amy explains our nervous system is so activated it wants to stop us from talking.
???????, ???? ????? ???? ???????? ?? ? ???? ????? ???? ? ??????, ????? ???? ??? ???? ?? ??? ????? ?????, ????? ???? ??? ??? ???????????, ??????, ?? ????? ?? ?? “?????”, ???? ????? ?? ????. ???? ??? ????????? ??? ??????? ??????? ????’? ???????????. ???? ????? ?? ???????? ??? ???? ???, ??? ???? ???? ?? ??, ???? ???? ?????.
So mama, with that in mind, I ask you, ????’? ??????? ??? ???? ???? ????????? ????’? ?????????? ???? ?? ??? ???? ???? ?? ?? ???? ??? ???? ???
Feel free to send any questions you have or any requests you need to help your decision in joining us.
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PS. For full podcast check out Happy Mama Movement with Amy Taylor-Kabbaz ep. 171
